Every one in the world will appreciate you noticing them. All people want to be heard, seen for who they really are, they want to be understood and appreciated. Take 5 little seconds of your life and encourage someone today.

From the Heart of Jody Capehart

You make me smile.

I see the care you took.

That looked a lot like Jesus!

You’re becoming much wiser.

Thank you for caring.

How thoughtful of you!

You really thought that through.

How kind of you to share.

Your creativity is inspiring.

Your enthusiasm excites me.

You are wonderful!

I love being around you.

You handled that beautifully.

You think of great questions.

Awesome, possum!

Way to live God’s Word!

What a word whiz!

You’ve been practicing.

You make life fun.

I think you made the right choice.

Couldn’t ask for more than that!

Your sharing ways warms my heart.

I knew you could do it.

Look at you shine!

I can really count on you.

Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.

The word goes back to Homer’s Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend’s name was Mentor.

Some observations from the book by Marc Freedman,
“The Kindness of Strangers”:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Mentors

1. Listening:

It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.

2. Building a relationship:

In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.

3. Respecting boundaries:

When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees’ needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.

4. Being sensitive to differences:

It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.

5. Providing support and challenges:

Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message ‘You are important”
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.

6. Acknowledging reciprocity:

While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.

7. Being realistic:

Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival on growing commitment and
genuine caring.

Taken from an email from Ernie Hines to Michael Dlouhy

Your first step to success starts with downloading this ebook
“Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy:

http://ddengler2.bigmlmlies.com/?mad=53157

To YOUR Success,
Debbie Engler

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“Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but Words will never hurt me!”

This is not true!

Believe in your dreams, Create your future
Debbie Engler

Ready, Fire, Aim = Learn to adjust from your mistakes!

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“You are now living each moment to the fullest. You enjoy each moment, each person, each place. You learn from the past, plan for the future, but live in the here and now. Your future is brighter because you make the most of each day.” — Bob Griswold

I decided to start this week’s article with a quote from Bob Griswold as it expresses how we are to focus on today, the present. We cannot change yesterday. Tomorrow is not here. The only actions or thoughts that we have any control over are right now.

How did you start your day? Did you wake up glad to see a new day? Did you have plans for the day that included your passion or purpose in life?

Are you thankful for everything in your life right now? Being grateful has a lot to do with your success. Putting a smile on your face and smiling at others will also increase your success.

This Thanksgiving, and throughout the rest of the year, plan to make 2011 the best year ever!

Live in the ‘NOW’

Be Grateful

Smile

Plan to be Successful

Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving,

Debbie Engler

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Let me share part 2 of the answer that Sharon Lechter and Greg Reid give in their book, Three Feet from Gold.

You already have the talent and ability to create great suc-

cess in your life. The Success Equation will show you how:

[(P+T) x A x A) +F = Your Success Equation

ASSOCIATION

Association refers to the people and organizations you surround yourself with. Think of the five people you spend the most time with.

Do they support you? Are they successful? Do you need to change your associations?

List the names of five successful people that you personally know.

Describe what makes these people winners in your opinion.

Make another list. What associations could help you apply your talent and your passion?

Think of groups of people, businesses, age groups, sports that could benefit or assist you in pursuing your passion and talent.

Now search the web for your passion and talent. What did your internet search turn up? If you are overwhelmed by the search results, start narrowing your focus until you find something that intrigues you. Any new ideas?

Look at the list of associations you listed and pick one. Make a call to see if you can “be of service” to that association. Ask, “How may I serve you?”

ACTION

Making a change requires taking action. Are you really committed to improving your life, or are you just attracted to the possibility?

Look in the mirror: . . . for things to change… you must change!!!

FAITH

This is often the toughest part of the equation to master. Having faith means believing in yourself and your idea despite the obstacles you may encounter.

Remember — Take a moment to remember the low points and the high points in your life.

Reflect — How did those times impact you? How did you respond?

Did you have support from your friends and family?

Recognize — Recognize that almost all successful people also have low points as well as the successes in their lives. They learn how to persevere and succeed through those low points. You Can Too!

Acknowledge– Acknowledge that you can persevere and can find the right associations!

Act as if! — Have the faith that your personal Success Equation will drive you to incredible success and start taking action every day toward that success.

Remember:

In order to plan a course for success, it helps to know where you are and how you got there. There is a saying, “Your life is the sum total of the decisions you have made.” Let’s review your past in order to create your future…

You will need to read the book, Three Feet From Gold, to get more details.
It is Truth Wrapped in a Story. I learned much from reading the book and am reading it again!

Don’t let your potential die. Find your passion in life and pursue it!

Debbie

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Once again, the brevity of life has reminded me that I must be passionately seeking to attain my goals while I am able.

Last Wednesday night, the youngest of four children, an 18 year old, college freshman, collapsed and died while running on a high school track. He was a leader in the making, tackling engineering problems that his classmates had no idea how to solve. He was a friend of our son, who is close to the same age. We also know his family and attended his funeral on Saturday.

So much potential, we don’t understand why it happens, especially when it is someone we know, but it prods us to do better and be leaders that show the way to others.

As an adult, we should know our purpose in life and pursue it passionately. We should be living in the present and giving 100% to achieving the goals to attain our purpose in life.

Remember the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

It is so easy to change from one profession to another in the society today, that most people change many times during their lifetime, never finding fulfillment.

Don’t be discouraged if you don’t know your purpose. Most people don’t know their purpose.

How do you find it? How do you know what you want to be when you grow up?

What did you dream about becoming when you were a child? What do you feel so strongly about doing, that it brings tears to your eyes, or your heart beats faster when you talk about it?

What would you do if you knew that you would not fail and money was not an option?

Let me share the answer that Sharon Lechter and Greg Reid give in their book, THREE FEET FROM GOLD.

You already have the talent and ability to create great suc-
cess in your life. The Success Equation will show you how:

[(P+T) x A x A) +F = Your Success Equation

Combine Passion, something that makes your heart sing,
with Talent, something you excel in, multiply it by the
right Association, successful people or organizations, and
Action, concrete steps you can take toward your goal, and
then add your Faith, the unwavering belief in yourself, and
you will have your own unique Success Equation.

If you don’t already have a journal, get one. Creating your
Success Equation can be your first entry.

PASSION

In your journal, take a page and make a list of ten things you
are passionate about. Sharon’s might include x and y; Greg’s
might include a and b. What does your list include? You may
need to get help from your friends and family (who support
you!) in coming up with things that really get you excited but
you might consider irrelevant.

What are you passionate about? What makes your heart sing?

Think about the times in your life when you have been most
fulfilled. What were you doing?

TALENT

Now, on another page, make a list of ten things you are really good at.

Are you a great communicator? Do you have a knack for numbers?

Can you cook or draw?

What do you excel in? What are your talents?

Now, ask a friend to remove one item that least describes you from each list.

Repeat the process with several friends, either as a group or
individually, until you have one item remaining on each list.

My passion is _______________________________________.

My talent is _________________________________________.

(to be continued…)

Don’t let your potential die.  Find your passion in life and pursue it!

Debbie

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“Ninety percent of new businesses fail the first year.

And 90% of the rest fail in the next 4 years.

THAT is tough.

You’re excited. You start. A thousand things go wrong.
You want to quit a thousand times.

Most people just quit.

You need a strong enough reason to do it.
Then if WHAT you’re doing doesn’t work,
You’ll figure out some other way. But if
You’re at all wishy-washy, you’re a goner.”

This quote from Michael Dlouhy’s book, Success in 10 Steps,
explains why we need to find and fulfill our passion in life.
That passion in your life will create a successful business.

So, why are you here (on earth, I mean)?

What do you enjoy doing so much that you can’t wait to get started in the morning?

God placed man on the earth initially to have fellowship with Him.
It was a joy for Adam, Eve, and God to walk and talk together in
‘the cool of the day’. We should have fellowship with our Creator.

We need to know what our purpose in life is. It will fulfill us so that we are overjoyed to work at accomplishing our purpose every day.

I don’t mean like the movie that shows someone who’s whole live
builds to a climax of doing a great humanitarian deed and then
passes on, though that may happen.

I am talking about day to day, burning, passionate, desires or dreams that become a reality because you pursue them with clear focus and purpose. Then you will be successful in your life, your business, etc.

First of all, you have to know WHAT you want. What is YOUR dream, your PURPOSE, YOUR PASSION IN LIFE?

Most people have been ‘programmed’ to think that once you reach adulthood, you are not supposed to dream anymore. (Not in the daytime, anyway)

WHY NOT?

Do you want to be STUCK in your 9-5  J-O-B from now until you retire without enough retirement to live comfortably?

Take responsibility of your life and actions and achieve your dreams.

Dream, and DREAM BIG, the BIGGER, the Better!

In the book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill says,
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

In the weeks to come, I will be sharing the steps that many
successful entrepreneurs have taken.

Then you, too, will be able to….

Find YOUR PASSION IN LIFE and BUILD YOUR BUSINESS.

Debbie

A Swami was having a conversation with Lord Shiva one day and said.

‘Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like.’

Lord Shiva led the Swami to two doors.   He opened one of the doors and the Swami looked in.  In the middle of the room was a large round table.  In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew, which smelled delicious and made the Swami’s mouth water.

The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly.  They appeared to be famished.  They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms and each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful.  But, because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths.

The Swami shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering.   Lord Shiva said, ‘You have seen Hell.’

They went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one.  There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man’s mouth water. The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well nourished and plump, laughing and talking.

The Swami said, ‘I don’t understand.’

‘It is simple,’ said Lord Shiva.  ‘It requires but one skill.  You see they have learned to feed each other, while the greedy think only of themselves and starve.’

Remember to ALWAYS share the spoon.

The lure to make easy money is has a powerful pull on many people.  The need to fast cash to pay off the wolves banging at the door is strong.

What many people don’t know or understand is the risk they are taking when they sign up for an illegal program better known as Ponzi scheme or illegal pyramind scheme.  Being a participant or a promoter of these types of programs can lead you into the type of legal troubles that can devastate you and your loved ones.

Some people are aware of what constitutes as a Ponzi scam and still participate knowing the risks.  Or they may even believe, “I won’t get caught”, or even think, “its chump change, they have bigger criminals to catch”.  What ever they tell themselves to validate their participation, it still boils down to an illegal program.  Period.

I encourage you to read the ebook Success in 10 Steps and listen to the 2 follow up audios, which I will send to you myself.  Audio #2, “5 Pillars to Your Success” is absolutely brilliant.  Michael defines a simple and very effective way to evaluate a business or program so that you can ensure it is the right one for you.  Above all that, to help you to avoid scams and Ponzi schemes that could cost you not only your hard earned money but more importantly your freedom.

Don’t

How many gurus are there out there who want you to get coaching from them. You know the ones that charge you all your savings and then promise to show you how to have success. You have to put up the money up front if you want to gain access to the inner circle and secrets to help you develop a system that will allow you to have duplication.

Why do these so called gurus hide the “secrets” they have and guard them so closely? Are these gurus still active in their business testing what works and doesn’t work today? Judith May discovered a better way through Success In Ten Steps. To read her story, go to:

http://hhakes.mentoringforfree.com/zSUCCESS_May.php

You gain more in the long run when you are willing to help others up front. It’s not about hiding something for only those “special” people. It is about helping everyone who wants to learn.

Henrietta Hakes

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