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25 Ways to Encourage People in 5 Seconds

Henrietta — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:00:07 +0000

Every one in the world will appreciate you noticing them. All people want to be heard, seen for who they really are, they want to be understood and appreciated. Take 5 little seconds of your life and encourage someone today.

From the Heart of Jody Capehart

You make me smile.

I see the care you took.

That looked a lot like Jesus!

You’re becoming much wiser.

Thank you for caring.

How thoughtful of you!

You really thought that through.

How kind of you to share.

Your creativity is inspiring.

Your enthusiasm excites me.

You are wonderful!

I love being around you.

You handled that beautifully.

You think of great questions.

Awesome, possum!

Way to live God’s Word!

What a word whiz!

You’ve been practicing.

You make life fun.

I think you made the right choice.

Couldn’t ask for more than that!

Your sharing ways warms my heart.

I knew you could do it.

Look at you shine!

I can really count on you.

MLM is… NOT complicated

Henrietta — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 12:00:15 +0000

Why complicate things when we don’t need to? MLM is not a complicated business model. Sarah Thompson breaks it down to its 5 simple components for us below.

MLM is …

People are always telling me that they want to, need to develop a home based business , and their choice is to build a network marketing business.

I always answer the same way -, so that folks have a clear understanding of what is required to build a successful MLM or Network Marketing business.

I explain that ALL of the Professional (aka successful) Network Marketers understand that MLM is ……

A self-development program (with a pay plan attached)

A Relationship not a selling business.

A Product referral program. (sponsoring)

A Product Auto ship business.

A Product (personal) use business.

Multilevel marketing started with Mytinger’s and Casselberry’s new marketing plan for the Nutrilite company circa 1945. They developed a three-pronged approach.. Use the products, share the products, and sponsor the folks who like the products.

Richard Dennis, one of the folk I respect said “If your not getting what you want out of your MLM , check what you are putting into IT”

My advice to you is decide whether or not you want to build your business.

If yes develop a plan to actively, consistently and with persistence do all five (5) action items several times each week.

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You Deserve Success

Debbie Engler — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 03:29:40 +0000

I need to come back to this list that I posted in December because I NEED TO READ IT OUT LOUD and BELIEVE IT and I WANT YOU to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, TOO!

Here is a list that will get you started thinking about what You Need to be
Successful in Your Business in 2011:
1. You MUST BELIEVE that YOU DESERVE SUCCESS.
2. You MUST BE CONFIDENT that FULFILLING YOUR PURPOSE in life
WILL CREATE SUCCESS.
3. You MUST HAVE A MASTERMIND of like-minded people, a TEAM of
SUCCESSFUL MENTORS.
4. You MUST USE the Product, RECOMMEND the Product and SPONSOR.
5. You MUST remain FOCUSED on the DAILY TASKS that build, even the
menial, repetitive, Slight Edge, tasks that are Easy to Do and Easy Not to Do!
6. You MUST be READY to RECEIVE SUCCESS.
7. You MUST have CLARITY – What DO YOU Want? What is YOUR WHY?

Do Not Sabotage Yourself by thinking that you do not deserve success!

Often times well meaning people in our lives tell us that good things will never happen for us. Maybe they don’t want to see us expect so much so that we will not be disappointed. However, if we don’t dream, it will never happen. If we expect poverty, that is what we will get. On the other side of the coin, if we expect prosperity, that is what we will get. “We have not because we ask not,” James says in the Bible, Or we “ask amiss,” seeking only our own pleasure not thinking of God’s plan or of others. We will be successful when we help enough others to be successful.

Most people have heard that ‘God Doesn’t Make Any Junk!’ God made us “in His Image” (Genesis), therefore we are deserving of An Abundant Life!

An Abundant Life does not mean that we will all be millionaires. Success is not being rich in an abundance of material things. In the Disney Movie, ‘The Happiest Millionaire’, the millionaire was a giving, caring man who was very happy with his life. He was not a ‘Scrooge’, hoarding his wealth, but shared his wealth of advice as well as his time and resources.

Happiness is Success. You are successful when you are happy!

Happiness comes from within.

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself?
If you can, that is wonderful. If not, repeat it often until you believe it!

Find someone you can believe in and that believes in you. We have a team that believes in each other and you may be a part of this team. Everybody needs a home and to be accepted. Check out this e book and become a part of our team. All it costs is your time.

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To your success,

Debbie Engler

Desire

tammyp — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 01:09:28 +0000

It’s not easy juggling a job, family and a business. No one person can do it all. But when you have a purpose and burning desire it seems like you can do anything. That is what Network Marketing is all about, having a burning desire. The kind that makes you want to get up and start the day and keep you going to the wee hours of the morning. That burning desire will make you strong and show you the way.

It’s a long narrow, winding path that few can stay on, but those that do, succeed and fulfill their dreams.

So find your purpose and burning desire and you will find happiness.

The Mentoring Mom,
Tammy Parish

Do What You Love and Do It Often

Debbie Engler — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 04:33:47 +0000

I started the new year with the book on 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastination and Get More Done in Less Time, called, Eat That Frog, by Brian Tracy. Then I fought my old programming that didn’t want to give up, roll over and play dead. Maybe it was just teasing me into thinking I had conquered procrastination, but was just ‘playing possum.’ Nonetheless, I found myself in a battle for which voice of reasoning I was going to listen to!

I believe in everyone else, but when it comes to ME, I don’t have faith the size of a speck of dust.

I listened to a good friend and mentor of mine who said he would believe in me until I believed in myself and he had some great advice, “Keep the Positive Emotions in the forefront of your mind at all times and stop all negative emotions from entering.”

Positive Emotions                   Negative Emotions
1. Desire    1. Fear
2. Faith                                            2. Jealousy
3. Love                                            3. Hatred
4. Sex                                              4. Revenge
5. Enthusiasm                             5. Greed
6. Romance                                 6. Superstition
7. hope                                           7. Anger
8. Prosperity                               8. Lack

Find a ‘Perfect Day’ experience that you have had and go there in your mind to help you block out the negative influence around you that you can not walk away from.

He used the word picture of someone being sick, coughing or throwing up on you. You would not
allow them to continue but would put something between them and yourself.

You can put something between them and yourself by going to your ‘Perfect Day’ in your mind.
Then just smile and enjoy the memory without the ‘puke’ of negativity getting you down.

So, as we enter this uncharted territory of 2011, think about these words from another mentor of mine…

THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
Do what you LOVE and do it OFTEN.
If you don’t like something, CHANGE IT.
If you don’t like your job, QUIT.
If you don’t have enough time, QUIT WATCHING TV.
If you are looking for the love of your life, STOP.
They will be waiting for you when you START DOING THINGS YOU LOVE.
STOP OVER ANALYZING. LIFE IS SIMPLE.
All emotions are beautiful.
When you eat, APPRECIATE EVERY LAST BITE.
Open your MIND, ARMS, and HEART to New Things and People,
We are united in our DIFFERENCES.
Ask the NEXT PERSON you see what their PASSION is,
and SHARE your INSPIRING DREAM with them.
TRAVEL OFTEN; getting lost will help you FIND YOURSELF.
Some OPPORTUNITIES only come once, SEIZE THEM.
Life is about the PEOPLE you meet and the things you CREATE WITH THEM.
So go out and START CREATING.
LIVE YOUR DREAM AND WEAR YOUR PASSION.
LIFE IS SHORT.

Inspiration Zone by Art Jonak

Live in the PRESENT for that is all you have the ability to do anything about.

Debbie Engler

http://ddengler2.bigmlmlies.com/?mad=53157

What are you Thankful for?

Karen — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 03:30:20 +0000

A saying from the book, Think and Grow Rich.
?”The enlightened give thanks for what most people take for granted …… As you begin to be grateful for what most people take for granted, that vibration of gratitude makes you more receptive to good in your life” – Michael Beckwith

As the year 2011 comes in a few days, do you plan on being more grateful for what you have? Add on to what you are thankful for this year(2010); be thankful for what most people take for granted; once you do then you will be more open to the good that happens in your life.

What are you thankful/grateful for? I’m thankful for family, friends, relatives, food, a house, car, etc. Most importantly I’m thankful for Jesus, God’s Son, who came to this earth. He’s the reason for this Christmas Season. I know Christmas is over, but every day I’m grateful that God sent his son to this earth.

Life is what you make it; what you do with what you have is how you use it, and how you use it is how to help others.

Till next time,

Karen Engler

http://ddengler2.bigmlmtruths.com/?mad=45227

You Cannot Eat The Elephant in One Setting

Debbie Engler — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 03:09:43 +0000

With the holiday season upon us, it is a great time reflect on the past year and move forward with goals for the new year. Of course, you cannot ‘eat the elephant’ all in one setting, so plan goals for a smaller period of time first and put together over the whole year, it will be worth it!

Most people do best with 90 day runs or goals for a three month (quarter of the year) period. Set your goals for 90 days and the readjust and set them for the next 90 days until…. it never has to stop until you do. Each 90 day run will encourage the next 90 days and build on the last 90 days.

Remember, not to use excuses to slow you down. Life is going to happen in 2011, just like it did in 2010. This year has held it’s trials and blessings for many people including me. I often used life happenings as an excuse until someone asked me, “Is this your business or a hobby?”

Why is it that we treat a home based business like a hobby and not with the priority and commitment that a business should hold for us? (You have to answer that one for yourself.)

Does your business take precedence over the laundry, dishes, housecleaning, etc? I don’t mean that these things are not to be done when it is time to do them, just work them into your business schedule! not the other way around.

Here is a list that will get you started thinking about what You Need to be Successful in Your Business in 2011:

1. You MUST BELIEVE that YOU DESERVE SUCCESS.
2. You MUST BE CONFIDENT that FULFILLING YOUR PURPOSE in life WILL CREATE SUCCESS.
3. You MUST HAVE A MASTERMIND of like-minded people, a TEAM of SUCCESSFUL MENTORS.
4. You MUST USE the Product, RECOMMEND the Product and SPONSOR Partners.
5. You MUST remain FOCUSED on the DAILY TASKS that build, even the menial, repetitive, Slight Edge, tasks that are Easy to Do and Easy Not to Do!
6. You MUST be READY to RECEIVE SUCCESS.
7. You MUST have CLARITY – What DO YOU Want? What is YOUR WHY?
The list could go on and it does…

Be sure to spend TIME on YOURSELF – Develop your mind and purpose first, then you will BE ABLE to LEAD others become Successful, also.

I wish you all a Very Merry Christmas and The BEST EVER NEW YEAR!

Debbie Engler

http://ddengler2.bigmlmlies.com/?mad=53157

13 Behaviors of Trust

Karen — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 20:32:13 +0000

From the book “The Speed of Trust” by Stephen M. R. Covey

1. Talk Straight – The Truth(in love!)
2. Demonstrate Respect – (Compassion)
3. Create Transparency – (Open, Real, & Genuine)
4. Right the Wrongs – (make restitution)
5. Show loyalty – How do you treat/speak about others when they aren’t there – trust multiplier
create legends – tell stories
6. Deliver Results – (instant credibility)
7. Get Better – If you’re not getting better, you’re falling behind.
8. Confront Reality – (short term possibilities/long term optimism)
9. Clarify Expectations – (preventative)
10. Practice Accountability – (leaders hold themselves and others accountable)
11. Listen First – (Understand, mutual benefit, listen)
12. Keep Commitments – (make promises you know you can fulfill)
13. Extend Trust – (leverage trust)

I needed to hear this today! I have been struggling with some(if not most) of these Behaviors of Trust, and wanted to share it with you. This goes for everything in life: friends, family, co-workers, business partners, relationships, etc…. I am going to strive to be better at each one of these 13 behaviors of trust and show others that I CAN be trust-worthy.

Until next time,

Karen

http://ddengler2.bigmlmtruths.com/?mad=45227

A True Mentor With a Servant’s Heart

Debbie Engler — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 05:04:55 +0000

Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.

The word goes back to Homer’s Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend’s name was Mentor.

Some observations from the book by Marc Freedman,
“The Kindness of Strangers”:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Mentors

1. Listening:

It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.

2. Building a relationship:

In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.

3. Respecting boundaries:

When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees’ needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.

4. Being sensitive to differences:

It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.

5. Providing support and challenges:

Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message ‘You are important”
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.

6. Acknowledging reciprocity:

While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.

7. Being realistic:

Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival on growing commitment and
genuine caring.

Taken from an email from Ernie Hines to Michael Dlouhy

Your first step to success starts with downloading this ebook
“Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy:

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To YOUR Success,
Debbie Engler

The Workshop of the Mind

tammyp — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 09:00:48 +0000

While reading Chapter 6 of “Think and Grow Rich”

by Napoleon Hill, I realized that I have to use

my imagination for it to work. Like a muscle builder

works his muscles to make them grow every day, I

need to use my imagination every day to make it

grow and become strong like it was when I was young.

Hill says to rebuild your imaginative faculty “Center

your attention, for the time being, on the development

of the synthetic imagination, because this is the faculty

which you will use more often in the process of

converting desire into money.”

I didn’t realize that we had two forms of imagination.

Knowing this has empowered me to be able to start

the rebuilding process of my Creative Imagination,

which I lost a long time ago.

Hill also says “Remember that the moment you reduce

the statement of your desire, and a plan for its realization

to writing, you have actually TAKEN THE FIRST of a

series of steps, which will enable you to convert the

thought into its physical counterpart.”

Hill then tells us to not be discouraged if we do not fully

understand all of what he has written as we are not all

students of the mind, we cannot expect to assimilate

all that is in this chapter the first time we read it, but

we will in time make good progress.

Hill tells us DO NOT STOP, nor hesitate in your study

of these principles until you have read the book at least

3 times, for then, you will not want to stop.

I am on my first time through the book and it has made

such a difference in me and my life, I cannot wait to read

the next chapter and the next until I have completely read

and studied the whole book.

Tammy Parish