The Mentoring Mom

Have you ever had a childhood experience that was
relatively insignificant in the overall scheme of life
and it just keeps popping into your conscious mind
and you wonder why?

It’s an experience that was pretty significant at the
time, but it really doesn’t seem worthy of continuing
to think about it at all.  It’s over, it’s long gone, no
body got hurt…let it go!  Well, this week, I’ve become
aware of the fact that it’s over, it’s long gone…but
maybe someone did get hurt…me.

I read this chapter right after last week’s mental
cleanse call——-normally I wouldn’t get the new
chapter read until Monday or Tuesday of the next
week.  I’ve read this chapter many times in years
past, and a time or two since being in this group.
But this time was different…the first two paragraphs
wouldn’t let go of me…

Dr. Hill said, “The subconscious mind consists of
a field of consciousness, in which EVERY impulse
of thought that reaches the objective mind through
any of the five senses, is classified and recorded,
and from which thoughts may be recalled or with
drawn as letters may be taken from a filing cabinet.

It receives, and files, sense impressions or thoughts,
regardless of their nature.  You may VOLUNTARILY
plant in your subconscious mind any plan, thought,
or purpose which you desire to translate into its
physical or monetary equivalent.

The subconscious acts first on the dominating
desires which have been mixed with emotional
feeling, such as faith.”

So as I kept getting yanked back to these two
paragraphs and pondering what Dr. Hill was telling
me, I realized that the childhood experience that
kept coming back to my conscious thoughts 43
years after the fact was just like Dr. Hill said…it
was just as if the experience was filed away in
my mind at age 10 and for some odd reason, I
kept pulling that “folder” out of the file cabinet
of my mind with some regularity over the years–
not really dwelling on it, but just pulling the
“classified and recorded” file out of my “mind
cabinet” and leaving it lay on my desk of life for
a bit and then I’d file it away again and wouldn’t
give it another thought for a period of time.

Then, without warning, I’d find myself pulling that
same thought file out of my mind cabinet again.
I could never figure out why.

Another experience that flies out of the “file
cabinet” of my mind has tapped me on the
shoulder with a little more regularity through
out my adult life.  To put it bluntly, I’ve always
had an underlying distrust of most women–an
uncomfortable feeling when I had to be around
a group of women or even in a conversation that
lasted very long with one woman.

I’ve always believed it was because I got married
when I was very young; I had three children by
the time I was 25 years old–I was busy; I grew
up on the farm…my mother never taught me to
be a shop-a-holic with your girlfriends; I never
had a group of girlfriends that I hung out with
other than at school…yadda, yadda, yadda!

I’ve always believed most women were judg
mental and critical and controlling and my
instincts were always focused on: do what
you’ve got to do and get out.

And I functioned that way in my life being a
very active mother of three children all involved
in many school activities; an active church life;
and a full time career for over 25 years.

Oh, I could function and participate quite
successfully on the surface, but at age 53
now, I could definitely count on one hand
with several fingers left over, the number of
women I have really trusted over my lifetime.

In fact, as I’m trying to remember who they
are, I think I may have 4 or 5 fingers left over
as I count them.  But I never really experienced
that same anxiety and apprehension around men.

I’ve always wondered if I was some kind of real
weirdo or something because I just never ever
felt any kind of girlfriend comraderie going on
in any circle of friends–I just would not let my
self get that close to anyone.  And “being very
busy” always gave me that excuse I needed to
“escape” when I wanted to.

On May 13th, Richard Dennis’ Tuesday skills
call on marketing was about a chapter called
“Giving Up Resistance” from a book by John
Gray titled “How to Get What You Want and
Want What You Have”.

As Richard was sharing this chapter, a few key
points were grabbing me.  After the call, I ran
upstairs to my vast library of self-help books
and there it was on the shelf.  I turned to re-
read the chapter Richard just shared on the
call.

John Gray said, “By linking present negative
feelings to past situations, you can relive your
past and enrich it with your more mature and
loving perspective.  When you were a child,
you were dependent on your parents to know
the truth.

As an adult, you can go back to experience
the feelings you had as a child and make
corrections.  As children, we did not have
fully developed brains capable of reasonable
thought.

At that fragile age, we formed beliefs that were
incorrect, yet they continue to shape and mold
our lives  Although we can’t change the past,
we can change the beliefs we formed.

We can reevaluate what happened and how
we felt.  Our limited and incorrect beliefs can
be corrected by going back and revisiting the
past and using certain processing techniques
described in another chapter.”

I’ve read both of these books before…this one
and “Think and Grow Rich”…I’ve read them
both more than once…I’m green…they’re all
highlighted and have notes in the margins.

As is said…”when the student is READY,
the ‘teacher’ appears.”

This week, I became aware of my 10-year-
old perspective of an emotional experience
when I accidentally overheard my mother
telling my father, “Oh, for pete’s sake…
she thinks she’s bleeding to death!” .

…after I woke her up in the middle of the
night scared to death about the mess that
had awakened me.  I don’t remember any
thing that my mother said to me as she
came to help me; I only remember what I
heard her saying to my dad as I approached
their bedroom door to say something else
to her–I don’t remember what that was either.

And as I sit here writing this at age 53, the
tears are pouring down my cheeks, partly
out of sadness for how I felt then, partly
out of anger for how it’s likely played into
my misperception about trust over the
years; and partly out of sheer joy that I
can now understand the connection and
relativity of it all.

I can now see a 10-year-old child who did
not know that Moms and Dads talk about
EVERYTHING and what appeared to be
total betrayal of my most private experience
in a way that felt like judgment and criticism
and mockery were all filed away in my 10-
year-old file cabinet of my subconscious.

They weren’t given adult labels at that point,
but likely were labeled as hurt, embarrasment,
fear, and the fact that I shouldn’t have trusted
my mom with my “secrets”–my most private
moment of my life up to that point.  And all of
that was definitely steeped with emotion for
me and as Dr. Hill said, “the subconscious
acts first on the dominating desires which
have been mixed with emotional feeling.”

So, now that the “Teachers” have appeared
because the “Student” is ready, I have been
back over it all this week with my adult “eyes”
and can re-write the story at age 10 the way
I SHOULD have filed it away in my sub
conscious mind with emotions of:  love,
understanding, compassion, appreciation
of my 10-year-old concerns, comfort,
reassurance, specialness, respect, support,
caring, bonding, and joy to welcome my
womanhood into being.

And rewriting that story, I believe, has changed
my life from this week forward.  I’ve cried over
what’s needlessly been lost and I smile about
my mom’s continued lack of patience with my
“green personality”, but I rejoice over the fact
that I am learning to know and love me…may
be for the first time in my life.

It’s an ongoing journey, but thanks to Michael
and Linda’s belief in me, and Sarah’s belief in
me, and the awesome support and love that
this group gives to everyone, I am beginning
to see the light at the end of the tunnel where
the success curve starts turning upward and
I know that if I keep VOLUNTARILY planting
my positive desires in my subconscious mind
through my self-talk, the MFF Recipe, stay
“close to the fire”–the MFF calls which is the
best campfire in the Universe, this business
and personal growth journey can take only
the road called “Success”.

Thank You, Michael and Linda, and Master
Mind friends for blessing me with your presence.
You are changing lives…and I appreciate you
so much!!

Again, this book forces me to examine myself…

My husband started this mental cleanse almost
three months prior to me.  He asked me to do it
with him and I refused at first….. He spoke about
joining a network marketing company and it made
me cringe.

For three months , my husband was out there doing
the mental cleanse and building a network marketing
business……without me.  This was not normal for us.

In life, we MASTER MIND together.  Yet, here I was,
unwilling to participate.  Unwilling to believe.  Even
becoming jealous that he was on the computer all
the time.

Jealous that he would not sit and watch TV with me.
How silly this all sounds now. Here was this man,
who had helped me with my own business for ten
years.

A man willing to constantly sacrifice for his family.

A man who was only guilty of trying to make a better
life for his family.  And there I was….stubborn, un-
supportive and quite honestly, selfish. THANK
GOODNESS I GOT OVER MYSELF.

I am writing all this to say that guys, we do need
each other.  Your spouse needs you.  Like Napolean
Hill says in the book.

” When a group of individual brains is coordinated
and functions in harmony, the increased energy
created through the alliance becomes available to
every individual brain in the group.”

We are all feeding off each others energy.  If I am
a spouse who is not supporting her husband, what
kind of energy am I feeding him?

In a marriage , is harmony not crucial?…. With
harmony comes peace.  If we are not harboring,
protecting and supporting our spouses dreams..
…how will a marriage survive in the long run?

How will there be peace in a marriage where two
people are “doing their own thing,” …….and not
MASTERMINDING together, sharing ideas, and
feeding off each others energy?

Working together will only get us to our goals
that much sooner.  We will be that much more
powerful because we feed off each others
“phenomenal energy.”

I am talking about all of us on this call.  We
motivate each other to succeed.  We inspire
each other as we go, listening to  and reading
each others lessons plans.

Giving words of encouragement.  We surround
ourselves with people who are working towards
the same goal.  We MASTERMIND together on
these calls.  We all realize, that we CANNOT
BE SUCCESSFUL ALONE.

It took me longer then it should have.  The
Mental Cleanse is one of the best things I
have ever done for myself.  It has made me
really look at myself and think about what
exactly I want out of my life and out of my
marriage.

Chapter 10 hammered it home. I will never
get those three months back, where my
husband was out there without me.

However, I will make sure that from now on
that I am his “phenomenal energy.”  After all,
when we take those vows are we not promising
to MASTERMIND through this life together?

Angela Bobal
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Chapter 9 – POWER OF THE MASTERMIND
The Driving Force

Power of knowledge. I have access to many
resources of accumulated knowledge – especially
via the internet. But such knowledge is static -
itconveys no energy.

Two or more living MINDS, working together in
HARMONY, amass not only  knowledge from
experience – but generate LIVING ENERGY, a
force which creates new things. This energy,
this FORCE, is greater than the sum of the
minds creating it – the MASTERMIND.

All individual parts of the group benefit and
draw from this force to propel them to higher
levels of capacity.

I and a good friend began a project to create
new training tool web-sites. We have the ability
to create attractive and functional web-sites, but
we lacked the knowledge we wanted to produce
the content.

We assembled a team of advisors —- all with
different background experience, with different
personalities, and different levels of achievement
within our organization.

A few members of our group are new to the
organization – they have the perspective of
trainees, our target audience.

All of us in the group are learning from each
other, and the group itself has taken on a life
of its own as a source of energy and inspiration.

Individual members are creating text, recording
audios and videos, and assembling resources to
create a complete system to guide the trainee
and the COACH.  The process is amazing,
exhilarating and rewarding!

All members of THIS Mastermind Group of
Personal Development can experience these
things as they PARTICIPATE in the group.

The DRIVING FORCE, the ENERGY, and
also the PSYCHIC aspect of this Group!

Your Friend Always,
 Ken Klemm
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Chapter 9.

In many ways this Chapter IS Mentoring For
Free and our Mental Cleanse call.

When I escaped – I didn’t quit – from my last
MLM endeavor I felt very much alone. The pay
plan was an Aussie 2 up (didn’t know it then),
I had no real up-line and no way to contact
anyone cross-line.

The “training” was one sorry phone call every
Tuesday at noon. And they tried to sell me
leads -at least I knew THAT was a scam from
another previous MLM.

I was alone and had no one to guide, train or
direct me. I guess you could say I was ready
for MFF.

I’m saying all this because much of it came
back to me this week when I reread Chapter 10.

I also reread my notes from Hill’s chapter the
first time around: Power can be defined as
“ORGANIZED and INTELLIGENTLY directed
KNOWLEDGE; ORGANIZED effort, sufficient
to enable an individual to transmute desire
into its monetary equivalent.

“If Power is ORGANIZED knowledge, let’s
examine the sources: Infinite Intelligence
/Accumulated Experience/ EXPERIMENT
& RESEARCH.”

The first is clearly Creative Imagination; the
second is clearly the 30 years of experience
Michael and others  bring who contribute to
all our calls; the third is the most salient and
meaningful for me.

Hill says: “Examination of these three
sources of KNOWLEDGE will readily
disclose the difficulties an  individual would
have if he depended upon his efforts ALONE,
in assembling KNOWLEDGE and expressing
it through definite plans in terms of ACTION.

He goes on: “When plans are comprehensive
and if  they contemplate large proportions, the
individual must induce others to co-operate
before injecting into them the necessary
element of power.”

This is the Mastermind: “CO-ORDINATION
of KNOWLEDGE  and effort in a spirit of
harmony between two or more people for
the attainment of a definite purpose.”

This is exactly what I didn’t have prior to
the beginning  of this year but what is
consistently available to me now.

If I take advantage of it.

Because I didn’t have this Mastermind
available to me before, I felt very much
ALONE.

Now I must plead guilty because for the
last 3 weeks I have been feeling overwhelmed
and realize now that I have been going through
the motions with my lessons. I have reread the
chapters but I have not rewritten any lessons
nor have I spoken on any of the recent calls.

I have only half-heartedly been here participating.

I’ve been kidding myself with “I’ve been over this
material before.”      WRONG.

It is not about the material; it is about the
Accumulated Participating KNOWLEDGE of
the Mastermind group every Wednesday at 3
and 8PM that yields any benefits.

Finally this point: I have deliberately capitalized
some words through out this lesson. They are
all Green words.

Without other people joining together and
PARTY-cipating (a very Blue word) there is
no Power.

Teal is the Ideal.

Thanks to you Michael, Linda and all participants
of the weekly Mental Cleanse Mastermind call.